Sparks

Taylor Swift has a song that talks about seeing “sparks fly” whenever that someone special smiles. Oh, the spark! If you’ve ever had it, you know exactly what I am talking about.  If you haven’t, then you are in for a real treat once you do experience it. Having a “spark” with someone is magical, but what if that is the only thing the two of you have in common?! OR better yet… What if you have everything else but the “spark?” I guess the real question is: How truly important is the “spark”???

I’ve experienced the “spark” once, and boy was it amazing! Seriously, it is indescribable. However, there were several other (important) components of a relationship that were missing with that person. Trust, commitment, growth, support, etc. were all absent, but that spark was oh-so prevalent. And then there have been other relationships where the previous mentioned elements were present, but the spark was more like a fizzle that soon burned out.  It was like I had 90% of everything I wanted in the relationship(s) that consisted of the elements of honesty, trustworthiness, support, love, but there was a 10% void within our relationship: the spark was missing.

After experiencing the so-called “spark,” of course I want it to be present in a future relationship. I also want all those other important “key elements” that I have experienced in other relationships to be there as well. Sometimes I wonder if it is even possible to have it all. I hear it all the time: “It is out there, Erin. You’ll find it, and it will be worth the wait!” I hope those people are right.

On one hand that “spark” is so important to me! On the other hand, all those other elements that I want (and need) are more important in the long-run. I believe that I can have an amazing, lasting relationship with someone if those key elements are present even if the “spark” is missing. I know from previous experiences that a relationship which is solely based on that “spark” won’t last; those other elements must be present as well. But, what if it’s possible to have them all? How amazing could that be?!!?!

I guess time will tell if I will find those key elements PLUS the “spark.” Every ounce of me wants to and will do whatever it takes to get it. But for now, I’ll focus on me and enjoy this life that I am presently living. And maybe, just maybe, one day I will see those sparks fly whenever HE smiles. J