To my very own "Boo-Hoo Crew"

I'm reading a book by Lisa Steadman called "It's a BreakUP, Not a Breakdown: Get Over the Big One and Change Your Life-- for good!" Even though I experienced what I consider "The Big One" over five months ago (yeah, that's right), I have experienced other breakups before and since then. Although I felt like I did what needed to be done to move on and be ready for love and future relationships, I am second-guessing that and am starting over at that once again... Hence the latest read.

Anyway, throughout her book Steadman mentions her "Boo-Hoo Crew," the ones who got her through her tough breakups, and how supportive they were (and still are). She defines this crew as "...a crack team of fabulous female friends. Part cheerleader, part therapist, [they] should be reliable, patient, and consist of at least three girlfriends for round-the-clock supervision and support" (40).

This has inspired me to think about all the amazing people who have stood by and supported me through my breakups. Although there has been several people who have been supportive and positive during my times of sorrow, there are seven of you who have gone (and continue to go) above and beyond. So this blog is dedicated to you, my personal "Boo-Hoo Crew!" Here we go...

Mom Thank you for always supporting my decisions, whether you agree with them or not. I know that I can always count on you to be my biggest fan and be at the "finish line" regardless of if I win or not. Your strength has made me stronger; your example has been the guiding light for me during each and every breakup. You are the strongest woman I know, and I am proud to have had you (and still have you) to guide and direct me in life. I love you!

Meghan You have seen me through every breakup I have ever had (beginning with little Davey Elliott in Kindergarten..LOL). You've been tough yet gentle with me. You've stood by me and, have not only been my sister, but have been my best friend through them all. You've been the easiest one in the family to tell when things don't go my way because I know that my happiness is first and foremost the most important thing to you, and you understand as only a sister can. I love you.

Kendra Oh Kendra, thank you for all the late-night talks when I knew no one else would be awake. Although you are family, I know that you have a different, less biased outlook on things, and I appreciate that. You are real with me, yet kind and comforting when others tend to get upset and sometimes are even harsh. Thanks for being the "middle-man" between my brother (aka: my most difficult, yet most loving ally) and me. I know he means well, but you soften the blow for both of us. I love you.

Cameron First of all, let me apologize for grouping you as a "fabulous female friend!" However, you have played (and keep playing) a vital role in the three most difficult relationship breakups that I have experienced. Although you have always been on my side, you have given me that "guy perspective" and helped me see things from the other side. I know that no matter what you will always answer your phone and let me cry until I have no tears left to shed. You are always optimistic about my future and reassure me that I am awesome and only deserve the best. I love you.

Kristi Thank you for being my best friend for twenty years. You always help me see the "big picture" and keep me focused on God and His plan for my life.  You always reassure me that He will not give me more than I can handle. You have seen me through all of my adult breakups and have stood by me no matter what. You always listen to me and are always optimistic in my choices and life moves, regardless how drastic they have been. I love you.

Bridget I could not have gotten through and moved on like I did after Michael if it wasn't for your love and support. Although the four of us were best friends, you stood by ME and were (and still are) 100% faithful. When I moved to Portland and then to Denver, you were cheering me on every step of the way, even though I know it was hard for you to see another loved one move away. You have always believed that I am strong enough to make the right decisions, even when I wasn't as confident in myself. I love you.

Katey You have been a great listener over the past two breakups. You are the only one who knows exactly what it is like to be a 20-something female divorcee. I know that when I talk to you about trust, the walls around my heart, and the oh-so-fun "dating game", you can truly relate, and you always know what to say to make me feel better. I appreciate you for the fact that you constantly check in on me, and I know that you are always there when I need a friend. I love you.

To all the others who have held me when I cried, listened to my angry rants, and have encouraged me to be strong and postive, thank you. Thank you for all of your love, support, words of encouragement, and for all of the prayers. I am not sure if you realize how much it all means to me, so let me tell you now. It all means the world to me, and I appreciate each and every one of you. I am so lucky to have such amazing people in my life, and I thank God every day for blessing me with all of you. My life really is awesome because of the awesome people in it. I love you all. <3

Steadman, Lisa. It's A Breakup Not A Breakdown: Get over the big one and change your life - for good! Avon, Massachusetts: Polka Dot Press, 2007.